11-14-21 Being Kind to Yourself

Be Kind to Yourself, You as much as anyone else in the world deserve your love! Paraphrase – Buddha

Lakota Instructions for Living
Friend do it this way — that is, do the very best you can. And if you do it that way, with both your heart and mind, whatever you do in life, the Power Of The Universe will come to your assistance, if your heart and mind are in Unity.
Wakan Tanka, Great Mystery, teach me how to trust my heart, my mind, my intuition, my inner knowing, the senses of my body, the blessings of my spirit.

“We are allowed to feel anything and everything.” We are merely advised to not identify with anything that is transient, such as feelings, opinions, personalities. Notice the subtle difference between “I am afraid.” and “I’m feeling fear,”  Lao-tsucommentary by William Martin.

Self-compassion: is seeing your most tender wounds without judgment. Showing compassion to yourself is being willing to see / feel the reality of your pain without covering it up or trying to “fix” it. As we lovingly befriend ourselves, awareness reveals the cause / effect dynamic that created the wound in the first place – a set of circumstances we experienced from which we formulated a negative belief about ourselves. – Pema Chodron

There are two things that I know:

  1. I am going to die – What I get in this life is not more important than what I am able to give, to share, which is the only thing of value that I will be able to leave.
  2. What I do makes a difference – I am only able to offer what I have received, and then with compassion, pass on. Through caring for myself and giving to others, both of these in a healthy balance, I find and offer peace and kindness, for myself and to others, and that does make a difference!

“The true joy in life is attained through a gentle discipline.”
 A discipline to be gentle with others and ourselves

Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishment. (Jim Rohn)

Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit.e. e. cummings

So how has trying to be perfect worked out so far? Perhaps not so well? How about dropping perfection, and relishing the imperfect, wonderful person that you are, right now. It’s OK to feel good about yourself, Really!

It became clear that if we were ever to feel emotionally secure among grown-up people, … we would have to develop the sense of being in partnership or brotherhood with all those around us. Can we find a new joy of living … 12×12

If you pay attention does it seem like you are trying to hurry through one thing to get to the next, then hurrying through that to get to the next, then … Know what you are doing. Know when you are making breakfast, putting on your coat, walking, speaking to someone, shopping… When you know what you are doing you have choices. Just the bare fact of knowing what you are doing, gives you the space to relax into your deeper presence and act from the heart. Be Mindful in your everyday life, in all you do, Feel what you are doing. When you begin to know you are engaging in old grasping behaviors, healthier options naturally present themselves. 

Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishment. See NOW as an opportunity to begin.

Pause when agitated. SLOW DOWN – BREATHE

If you want to have a bad day, think only of yourself.

It is not as necessary to improve ourselves as it is to experience and discover who we are, who we are right now, just as we are. Our wisdom and kindness towards others and ourselves, will naturally come through.  

We all have everything we already need!!! We all have our Basic Goodness, the Sunlight of the Spirit. This is inherent; it is an unconditional goodness that we all possess. To touch into your basic goodness, – Be kind yourself – Be kind to others. Smile more.

Accept difficulties that arise, do the best you can, then let go. Always come from the foundation of the sunlight of the spirit that is all guiding.

This compassion naturally enables us to give to others and ourselves — more happiness.  

You can only be as kind and loving to Yourself, as you are to Others.
You can only be as kind and loving to Others, as you are to Yourself.

Relax  —  Trust yourself.

How do you fill your bucket? One drop at a time
The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step
The great arises out of small things that are honored and cared for
May you be well. May you be happy. May you find peace.

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