11-15-20 The Great Arises out of Small Things that Are Honored and Cared For

The Great Arises out of Small Things that Are Honored and Cared For

Honor – To have and show high respect for, integrity, dignity.   

Care – kindness, maintenance, to attend to, to regard highly, to treat with respect. 

Both honoring and caring are actions that come from a certain state of mind. Meditation, prayer, and mindfulness-awareness deepen our relationship with our mind as well as our body and have the potential to strengthen us from the inside out.  This transformation only happens when we step in fully and take total responsibility for learning about ourselves. Without self-awareness, we can tend to blame the world and others in our lives for our struggles. Freedom from suffering is an inside job. We are constantly offered  opportunities to learn more about ourselves, to wake up. Do we honor those opportunities?

We keep looking for and waiting for that place or state of mind that will be what we have always been looking for. Quit looking and just see. Here, now, this is what it is. We accept that we are human and imperfect—that we have ups and downs. That our emotions sometimes take us for a ride, with joy, or then with jagged feelings. That we feel bored or anxious or unsure. We can fully step into all of that, not with the attitude of putting up with what is happening while waiting for something better, but with an acceptance of what is happening. That it’s all valuable, and the essence of a full and wonderful life. Then we begin to unfold and appreciate our life.

What do we honor and care for? We may honor a sense of not being worthy. Of needing something elusive which drives us to become subtly dishonest and manipulative in order to get what we want, even if we aren’t quite sure what that is. We may hide behind many masks. We may honor the frustration of never being engaged in here and now. We may stay frustrated because the conditions we think we need have not appeared. We think we need someone else to fulfill us, or more money, or better weather, or no restrictions on seeing others in-person, not on zoom. We all have so much richness—we need to fully appreciate all the small things we overlook.

Wake to 3 things you are grateful for. Being alive, food, clothes, a roof, a partner (careful what you wish for), being on your own, electronic gadgets (which we don’t escape into), pets and toothpaste. Our projections concerning what we need more of are usually founded in fantasy; if we finally GET something, we find out we are still pretty much the same as we were before. Different place, same us, still needing something…???

We may think we need to wait for that BIG thing, and then we will get it together, really get into life then. But how do you build a house with a good foundation? It’s a process—many, many small elements are put in place and work together to give our house something solid to rest on.  If we plunk a large, beautiful home down on an unstable sand dune, it will collapse.

We choose to be happy or not. It really is that simple. Though we will not always be happy when going through difficult times, we can appreciate being present and aware of all aspects of our life. We all lose loved ones, and have myriad other difficulties that we need to work with and work through. We’ll do a better job of it when we come from a sense of abundance and worthiness. Don’t let a feeling of poverty or unworthiness be who you are. Be brave enough to know you are enough, you have enough and can embrace and live life as fully as possible, right now, in  difficulties and joys. 

When we have difficult times, we can be so trapped in that emotion we do nothing but feel and project our confusion and pain, and inflict it on others verbally and physically. My addiction was the epitome of being trapped and acting in very harmful ways. I never thought to care for myself in a kind way—to honor that I was entrapped and needed help, and took that help and began growing up. I only wanted to continue destroying myself. Many pay the ultimate price for that. 

When we feel and accept, we are honoring and caring for ourselves and OTHERS.

What do I honor in my life that is healthy? I honor all of myself. I have the discipline to work with healthy routines, eat healthy food, exercise, meditate, pray, get outdoors, visit others and be available. (Even if only virtually.) When I am feeling sorry for myself, or scared, I can take 3 breaths, relax my swirling mind and shoulders, and return to honoring and caring for myself. 

I don’t procrastinate returning the calls or emails I should. I do the dishes, and dust, I get my oil changed and my tires rotated, I pay my bills on time, I see the doctor for checkups. I do the small things that can seem like a burden with care and appreciation. In this way, I learn to respect myself more and feel the dignity that comes with the discipline of living authentically. I begin liking myself, and my life, without all those things I thought I needed. Be free and prosper, just as you are.

Those of us here and now have the capacity, and know how essential it is, to honor and care for ourselves, and others. To do it in everyday life. Let us recognize the terrible pain we have known and use that knowledge to embrace the fragile nature and precious quality of EVERYONE’S life. To Honor and Care for this life the best we can. 

Open up and see with both eyes. With your vision off the ground, you can look  forward to what your precious life holds.

Please call me by my true names, 
So I can hear all my cries and laughter at once,                        
So I can see that my joy and pain are one.
Please call me by my true names, 
So I can wake up and the door of my heart can be left open, 
the door of compassion. 
Freedom is not given to us by anyone; we have to cultivate it ourselves. It is a daily practice…”
Thich Nhat Hanh

 How do you fill your bucket? One drop at a time.
The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.
The great arises out of small things that are honored and cared for.
Heart Of Recovery web site  —  fcheartofrecovery.com