10-6-19 Small Things

Small Things

The great arises out of small things that are honored and cared for.

No Great thing has ever happened without many small things that were done properly, as the cause.

The Great, — sure I’ll take as many
Great things as I can get.

That feels like what I was trying to do
during my addiction, and even afterwards, using more socially
acceptable ways to grasp after things, big things. I seem to need the
drama. I felt a lack of “something”, not sure what, that I would
use a drug or behavior to blot out my dissatisfaction and yearning.

If the Great Arises out of small things,
then I first need to attend to small things, in order for those Great
things to have an opportunity to arise. OK, I will try to small
things, as long as it will bring me Great things.

If I am USING any aspect of my life in order
to get something else, then I do not have a sense of vision or path,
and am blindly groping around, and trying to create,
the Good stuff.

If we go through all the steps, with the end
result, the reward in mind, then we have missed the boat. Every step,
literally, that we take needs to be Honored, – ( to respect, to
have the privilege of ), to fully partake of each step, of each
aspect of the process.

We can certainly enjoy a meal, but if we
have been being aware and grateful for all the steps that brought us
there, the joy of the meal will be fuller, but no fuller than any of
the steps. Washing the dishes we can do with an appreciation of the
meal we have eaten and the good fortune that we have dishes. To
respect something, is to give it your full attention.

We may try very hard to accomplish a goal in
a short time, recovery is a good example. If we have a goal and try
hard to get there and are then frustrated because we don’t get the
result WE want,
we will quit out of frustration or think that the path is not a good
one. This can be devastating in recovery. We must learn to respect
ourselves, others, and the world we live in. To work towards moving
in the right direction without any need of accomplishment or having a
goal to reach. The path is the goal. The path is the destination.

“Harmony
makes small things grow, lack of it makes great things decay”.
Sallust

“The
Lord likes small things best, especially those done with love.”
Mother
Teresa

The little things are most worthwhile – A
quiet word, a look, a smile, A listening ear that’s quick to share.
Another’s thoughts, another’s care…Though sometimes they may
seem quite small, These little things mean most of all.
Margaret Lindsey.

Human beings are natural seekers. We want
answers and meaning, and we expect to find both in ‘big’ things.
Big possessions, big organizations, big beliefs. Inevitably, we find
that big, external things become a heavy weight on the soul, driving
us further from a truth that can only come from within. Being and
understanding are readily available through the small, humble things
that surround us. To quiet down and find yourself reflected in the
details of what is there, all around you. We live in the present, and
hope is always in the future. Abandon all future, (and past), and
start living moment to moment, rejoicing in the small things of life.

Remember, life is not made of great things;
it is made of very small things. In the early morning, sipping a cup
of tea, do it totally, as if this is the last cup of tea you will
ever sip again. Take each moment and squeeze the whole juice of it.
Ohso Treat each
person as if you will never see them again.

We have to make a sustained effort, again and again, to cultivate the positive aspects within us. Dalai Lama

When I stopped indulging in my addiction I
went through a time of withdrawal. That was a rather intense time,
but I had brought myself to that point very slowly, over a long
period of time. My recovery, my spiritual relationship is
progressive, as long as I continue to apply myself with a sense of
growth and development in a certain direction, I will continue to
advance in that direction, one step at a time, one drop at a time. If
I choose to not apply myself in a healthy
direction, my decline will also be slowly progressive.

A personal relationship is not defined by a
large event, such as a wedding or a birth or buying a house, but is
defined by many many small things that foster growth, or do not. Such
as compassion for the other, small touches or kind words, to make the
effort to be kind when it is difficult. To understand the value of
another. To support them in their growth and be of aid in
difficulties. These are the brick and mortar that make a strong wall.

With a sense of awareness, patience and
persistence we can keep progressing in small ways that do have a
Great effect.

Meditation is a good teacher in learning to
utilize the virtues of awareness, patience and persistence, that we
can then begin to naturally utilize in all aspects of our lives. It
also teaches us that we are human, that we make mistakes and have
problems, but we are always, always a worthy and valuable part of
this world. We do have a lot to offer.

When you feel the tension of not getting
what you want, of others not acting like they should, (according to
you), or the vague underlying unhappiness with no reason to it,
breathe deeply, bring your energies into you body, and calm the
energies with the breath and no thinking. Stop the manipulations and
resentments. Bring yourself into the NOW, with the truth of what is
occurring, that you accept and permit to guide your actions in
kindness. In the NOW is the truth of reality, which is what you are
feeling a lack of. There is no grasping or fear in NOW. Only a sense
of connection and acceptance.

When we need to work on difficulties in our
lives we generally need to do so slowly. To
acknowledge
that an action or behavior that is harmful and slowly, mindfully,
replace the harmful behavior with positive and healthy
thoughts and actions. It takes time to override old established
behaviors and replace them. Patience, and persistence, believe in
yourself, always.

How do you fill your bucket?
One drop at a time.

The journey of a thousand miles
begins with one step.

The
great arises out of small things that are honored and cared for.

Heart
Of Recovery web site
fcheartofrecovery.com