6-3-18 The great arises out of small things that are honored and cared for.

The great arises out of small things that are honored and cared for.

Honor – To have and show high respect for, integrity, dignity.   

Care – kindness, maintenance, to attend to, to regard highly, to treat with respect. 

Both honoring and caring are actions that come from a certain state of mind. 

Meditation, prayer, and mindfulness-awareness deepen our relationship with our mind as well as our body and have the potential to strengthen us from the inside out.  This transformation only happens when we step in fully and take total responsibility for learning about ourselves. Without self awareness, we can tend to blame the world and others in our lives for our struggles. Freedom from suffering is an inside job.

We are constantly offered  opportunities to learn more about ourselves, to wake up. Do we    honor those opportunities?

We keep looking for, waiting for that place, that state of mind that will be what we have always been looking for. Quit looking and just see. Here, now, this is what it is. We accept that we are human and imperfect–that we have ups and downs. That our emotions take us for a ride       sometimes, with joy, or then with jagged feelings. That we feel bored or anxious or unsure. We can fully step into all of that, not with the attitude of putting up with what is happening while waiting for something better, but with an acceptance of what is happening. It is all valuable and the essence of a full and wonderful life. Then we begin to unfold and appreciate life.

What do we honor and care for? We may honor a sense of not being worthy. Of needing      something elusive which drives us to become subtly dishonest and manipulative in order to get what we want,  even if  we are not quite sure what that is.  We may hide behind many masks. We may honor the frustration of never being engaged in here and now.

It seems almost too simple that what we need to do is to just feel, accept and engage in what is happening with a larger awareness. Not engaging so that we are overcome, attach and identify with an emotion, but so that we can acknowledge and accept where we are.  

When we have difficult times, we can be so trapped in that emotion we do nothing but feel and project, verbally and physically, our confusion and pain, and inflict it on others. My addiction was the epitome of being trapped and acting in very harmful ways. I never thought to care for myself in a kind way–to honor that I was entrapped and needed help. I only wanted to continue destroying myself. Many pay the ultimate price for that. 

  When we feel and accept, without identifying and attaching to our emotions, we are honoring ourselves and caring for ourselves and OTHERS. When we detach and do not identify with our emotions, we experience them, but give any action over to a power greater than our egos

What do I honor in my life that is healthy? I honor all of myself. Including my spiritual self. 

Have a sense of always stepping into an honorable life, of not trying to hide.

It can be hard to not hide. We think we need to not show our humanness, that we need to       constrain, hold back, or be aggressive and project to protect some image we have manfactured. Or we justify bad actions by thinking, well, I am just doing what I feel, being who I am.

To honor who we are, right here right now, is to quit fighting and to care for our spiritual      practice and awareness of how we act in the world. 

To do this in everyday life. Let us honor the terrible pain we have known and use that knowledge to embrace the fragile nature and precious quality of EVERYONE’S life. To Honor and Care for this life the best we can.  

In doing so, you will also Care for yourself–assist yourself in opening up and seeing with both eyes. With your vision off the ground, you can look  forward to what your precious life holds.

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Please call me by my true names, so I can hear all my cries and laughter at once,                   so I can see that my joy and pain are one.                                                                                 Please call me by my true names, so I can wake up and the door of my heart could be left open, the door of compassion. Freedom is not given to us by anyone; we have to cultivate it ourselves. It is a daily practice…Thich Nhat Hanh

When we are selfish and hide, or become manipulative and aggressive we fail. We then need to accept that we did not act well, with complete forgiveness, and aspire through our actions to   honor ourselves and all others.

How do we do this in our everyday life? Not just nod our heads and agree that these may be good  ideas, and then not take any action.

What does your taking action, everyday, look like?

How do you become aware of and honor small challenges well met everyday. Do not need to become a Saint by tomorrow. Do need to meet small changes everyday.  How do you step more  fully into honoring the precious life you have? How??? 

We have been given the amazing gift of insight and wisdom, if we choose to engage it. If we choose to be brave, honest and care for ourselves and honor our lives that touch all others, we will live an honorable life. Something I had no concept of just a little while ago. What a blessing to now have my difficulties be in how to grow and be more kind, instead of how to continue to destroy and demean myself and everyone else I touch.

What a blessing I have been given. I will honor and care for that blessing. 

Nothing is more important!

How do you fill your bucket? One drop at a time.                                                                        The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.                                                              The great arises out of small things that are honored and cared for.

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