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Honoring and Caring Brings Freedom

Honor – To have and show high respect for, integrity, dignity.
Care – kindness, maintenance, to attend to, to regard highly, to treat with respect.

Both honoring and caring are actions that come from a certain state of mind.
Meditation, prayer, and mindfulness-awareness deepen our relationship with our mind as well as our body and have the potential to strengthen us from the inside out. This transformation only happens when we step in fully and take total responsibility for learning about ourselves. Without self awareness, we can tend to blame the world and others in our lives for our struggles. Freedom from suffering is an inside job.
We are constantly offered opportunities to learn more about ourselves, to wake up. Do we honor those opportunities?

We keep looking for, waiting for that place, that state of mind that will be what we have always been looking for. Quit looking and just see. Here, now, this is what it is. We accept that we are human and imperfect–that we have ups and downs. That our emotions take us for a ride sometimes, with joy, or then with jagged feelings. That we feel bored or anxious or unsure. We can fully step into all of that, not with the attitude of putting up with what is happening while waiting for something better, but with an acceptance of what is happening. It is all valuable and the essence of a full and wonderful life. Then we begin to unfold and appreciate life.

What do we honor and care for? We may honor a sense of not being worthy. Of needing something elusive which drives us to become subtly dishonest and manipulative in order to get what we want, even if we are not quite sure what that is. We may hide behind many masks. We may honor the frustration of never being engaged in here and now.

It seems almost too simple that what we need to do is to just feel, accept and engage in what is happening. Not engaging so that we are overcome by an emotion, but so that we can acknowledge and accept where we are.
When we have difficult times, we can be so trapped in that emotion we do nothing but feel and project, verbally and physically, our confusion and pain, and inflict it on others. My addiction was the epitome of being trapped and acting in very harmful ways. I never thought to care for myself in a kind way–to honor that I was entrapped and needed help. I only wanted to continue destroying myself. Many pay the ultimate price for that.

When you have a fear that you think you need to overcome, that you need to conquer, be careful. If you ignore your fear it will remain and continue to misguide and limit you.
If you try to fight your fear, your fear will gladly join in the fight. You have just fed your fear with the fear that you may or may not win. You have hardened and are afraid. Honor, accept and carefully look at what your fear is. Where does it come from? How is it limiting you? What action can you take that will have you step into and through your fear. Not aggressively, but with a sense of acceptance of having a fear, and also caring enough about yourself that you are willing to gently but firmly step into and through the fear and do what you need to.

“Loving-kindness practice is the classic antidote for fear. If you see through the lens of love, you are not afraid of what is out there in the same way, even though it remains; you do not see it as a problem. Sit in meditation for a few minutes, then bring up the contemplation — ”May I find freedom from fear in my life. May I help others find freedom from fear in their lives. Say each line many times in your head and let it penetrate into who you are. Feel the freedom it brings!
Though your fears seem so real and controlling, when you love and care for yourself enough, you will be able to let your fears dissolve into the nothingness they really are.
You cannot love and fear at the same time. Choose love.

When we feel and accept, we are honoring ourselves and caring for ourselves and OTHERS.
What do I honor in my life that is healthy? I honor all of myself.

Have a sense of always stepping into an honorable life, of not trying to hide.
It can be hard to not hide. We think we need to not show our humanness, that we need to constrain ourselves and project and protect some image.
To honor who we are, right here right now, is to quit fighting and to care for our spiritual practice and awareness of how we act in the world.

We do not need to “get anywhere” we need to be right here, right now. That is the big brass band, that is the prize we need to win; ourselves, just as we are. With a sense of honor, dignity and imperfection that we embrace, that we wrap our arms around and care for tenderly, and know we have arrived.

Those of us here and now, have the capacity, and know how essential it is, to honor and care for ourselves, and to honor and care for others. To do this in everyday life. Let us honor the terrible pain we have known and use that knowledge to embrace the fragile nature and precious quality of EVERYONE’S life. To Honor and Care for this life the best we can.

In doing so, you will also Care for yourself–assist yourself in opening up and seeing with both eyes. With your vision off the ground, you can look forward to what your precious life holds.

Freedom is not given to us by anyone; we have to cultivate it ourselves. It is a daily practice…”
Thich Nhat Hanh

How do you fill your bucket? One drop at a time.
The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.
The great arises out of small things that are honored and cared for.
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