1-7-18 Space

Space

Silence is like a cradle holding our endeavors and our will; a silent spaciousness sustains us in our work and at the same time connects us to larger worlds that, in the busyness of our daily struggle to achieve, we have not yet investigated. Silence is the soul’s break for freedom. David Whyte

It’s a transformative experience to simply pause instead of immediately fill up the space. By waiting, we begin to connect with fundamental restlessness as well as fundamental spaciousness. -Pema Chodron, from “When Things Fall Apart.”

Space is not spacing out. Creating space is opening up to possibilities, a clarity. Any healthy relationship has a healthy space, and little judgement. Have a good relationship with yourself!!!

One cultivates spaciousness or awareness which allows you to acknowledge the emotions and see them as part of the human condition. Emotions are like subtle thought forms and they all arise in response to something outside yourself. They are all reactions. You cultivate a quietness in yourself that watches these emotions rising and falling and passing away. Ram Dass

To Know I am nothing, no-thing, spacious, is to be able to access everything. If I am something then I have identified who I am, how I need to act, what I need to get, not get, what I am afraid of, all my limitations. I become solid and full, nothing more can get in. When I drop my identifying with… anything, the space where truth, joy and wisdom are, is part of who I am. Or am not?

Space, not reacting automatically, will give you time to think and not react, and then to have some insight. Space lets you decide if you should say yes or no depending on how you really feel, not just a reaction. Space contains no fear.

“We live in a culture that values sharing every thought and feeling as it occurs. As a result, we often don’t pause to reflect on what we have just said. This lack of reflection can lead to a superficial connection with ourselves. In contrast, by paying attention to the silence within our conversation and embracing those spaces, we can connect more deeply with ourselves. This deeper connection is the basis of an authentically engaged and self-actualized life.” Psychology Today

Meditation, mindfulness-awareness, may give us a glance that our thoughts are not solid, are not truth, but just a story we tell ourselves to protect an image we have of ourselves. Almost all, if not all of my fears, I now see as only a figment of my imagination that keeps me in chains.

Our spiritual walk begins when we acknowledge that we are indulging in a behavior that is extremely harmful and sometimes deadly to ourselves and others. We are bound to it, enslaved.  At first we have little or no spaciousness in our minds. We have been consumed by a behavior. As we begin to be able to distance ourselves somewhat, find some space, from our affliction we begin to be able to open our minds more. We begin to open up to the world, feel better about ourselves and being engaged in a path that is difficult at times but rewarding and healthy. We identify with our recovery, which is healthy.

As we continue to progress we recognize that our difficulties arise from a mind that needs to keep identify with something, many things, in order to give us something to hang onto that defines us. More space but still pretty full of WHO we are. As we continue to progress we may naturally drop many of the “identifications”. We can be in recovery,  and be a nurse or in construction or administration, without identifying with that is who I am. It is what I do.  With more space in our minds we are able to experience more of life fully without needing to identify, fill up our space, with it. I am aware of conflicting emotions in myself. I can give those emotions space to be there, but to not define who I am. I am feeling angry, or sad. With a spacious mind I am able to experience all that comes up, but I am not bound by it. I am mindful of where my  mind goes.

Quit making walls. Then begin letting YOUR walls disappear by providing space, openness, instead of more judgments and constantly pulling out your ID card.

“Mindfulness.” She defined it as stillness, openness, and silence. Pema Chodron

It is important to not take this path toooo seriously. Yes, we need to be dedicated to learning, and using, experiencing, a kinder more open and happy self. But we will not make much headway with a frown and a NEED to get there. Relax, study and practice hard and ENJOY yourself.  Any Master I have seen exudes a sense of joy and compassion. Smile more. Practice more.

The Wise Man believes profoundly in silence — the sign of a perfect equilibrium. Silence is the absolute poise or balance of body, mind and spirit. If you ask him: what is silence? He will answer: It is the Great Mystery! The holy silence is His voice! If you ask: What are the fruits of silence? He will say: They are self-control, true courage or endurance, patience, dignity and reverence. Silence is the cornerstone of character. Ohiyesa, Wahpeton Santee Sioux

“Silence is the sleep that nourishes wisdom“. – Francis Bacon

Ancient Vedic sages spoke of the space between thoughts.  You must become the thinker of your thoughts, not your thoughts themselves.  Otherwise you simply become the pawn of your thoughts. When you meditate, you enter that space between thoughts. Randy Gage:

Practice 50 times a day, quieting your mind. Letting go of holding onto anything. Practice just being open, spacious. When you are driving, working, making a meal, walking, talking, feeling an identity with anything.When you are feeling afraid, or just uptight from everyday life, take a spacious breath and relax. Be present with what you are doing, NOW by being in that space. Just that space of doing, nothing more. Nothing needed except space. Everything is already there. In order to get somewhere, we need to do nothing. Pretty green and fuel efficient.

How do you fill your bucket? One drop at a time.

The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.

The great arises out of small things that are honored and cared for.

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