12-24-17 Who Are You

Who Are You?

You are responsible for all of your experiences of life.
We have encountered negative stereotypes for so long, in media and marketing and everyday conversations, we build up ways to hold onto them, and we think they are really important.
We think that is who we are.

There is so much more, you and the world hold so much more. Do not let anyone, including yourself, demean or limit you.
Do not permit others or circumstances to define who you think you are. If someone is being aggressive and harmful, you may have the inclination to be aggressive back or to avoid everything. Properly you could feel the fear and confusion the other person has, and respond in with a measured and kind response. You do not have to WIN, or Lose, you do need to keep your head and heart open. This takes an awareness of your feelings and a courage to proceed gently but firmly. You have the responsibility to keep your hand on your steering wheel and to realize you also have the responsibility to demonstrate to the other person a kinder and better way. We had to be shown a better way, many times, before we actually began to embrace it. We can give the other person the same patience others have shown us.

“The mind is everything. What you think you become.”?Buddha

“I can’t control my thoughts, if a thought comes, it comes.” To that I say, you may not be able to stop a bird from flying over your head, but you can certainly stop him from building a nest in your hair. Dismiss thoughts that are contrary to the life you desire to live. Buddha said, “It is a man’s own mind, not his enemy or foe, that lures him to evil ways.”

Meditation is where we can begin to see our thoughts and not be controlled by them. We see their limitations and go beyond that. We become friendly and familiar with our thinking and know our thoughts are a necessary part of our existence but never a limiting or controlling factor. Beyond our thoughts is our innate goodness, our God consciousness or spiritual essence, that uplifts and engages us, IF we have the courage to choose that path. Being a coward feels dirty and poor.
Being brave is scary, exciting and wonderful.
“However many holy words you read, however many you speak, what good will they do you if you do not act on upon them?” Buddha

When we feel a poverty mentality, sorry for ourselves, we can acknowledge that and then take action to counteract it. We respect ourselves enough to not let our small mind overcome our shining and wonderful true self. Make an effort when you are feeling down. Take some time to do something you like to. Make the effort to call others or go to meetings or activities and be involved. Get tired of feeling bad, and quit it.

When you arise in the morning, think of what a precious privilege it is to be alive — to breathe, to think, to enjoy, to love. Marcus Aurelius

There’s always something to be thankful for. Don’t be so pessimistic that for a moment, even a split moment, you fail to realize the thousands of things you have to be thankful for. Everyone didn’t wake up this morning; some people went to sleep last night for the last time.

As a single footstep will not make a path on the earth, so a single thought will not make a
pathway in the mind. To make a deep physical path, we walk again and again. To make a deep mental path, we must think over and over the kind of thoughts we wish to dominate our lives. Henry David Thoreau

Do you find yourself judging others, or yourself negatively, or as better you. Stop it. It is not true. Do not associate with those that choose to be negative and harmful. It is too easy to do, and it does a lot of harm. Be brave enough to be kind. Choose wisely, and constantly work on your heart being open and full. You will also find a sense of humor under, and about all the Bull.

I find my spiritual self to be with and above others opinions and circumstances. However, others and circumstances will affect me, but I can continually return to the foundation of a loving kindness for myself and the other. I can continually believe in myself while being flexible and teachable.
A spiritual sense of self and other is like a faucet. When there is too much cold water, avoidance, I need to step up and engage the hot more. And when too much hot water is there, anger, judgement, I need to act and cool things off so there is a warm flow. Life is always a balancing act. Wanting everything to be honkey dory all the time is not realistic. Be real, be wrong sometimes, be kind as often as possible and always believe in yourself!!!

In our addiction we most probably had a negative image of ourselves. As we worked on recovery we often needed to go through a time of confusion and feeling sorry for ourselves. As we progress we begin to hold our heads up a bit more, begin to believe in ourselves more and feel that it is worthwhile living and making the effort to open up to this amazing attitude of health and appreciation. As we begin to love ourselves and connect with others, we naturally begin to have a more positive outlook. This is a state of mind that we have cultivated, worked on. Just like a garden, we must continue to tend the flowers and pull up the weeds, or it will become a mishmash of flowers and mostly weeds. Don’t get stuck in living “well enough” to get by, and only pursuing surface things you want. Please continue to grow and blossom; it is your choice.

You do not need to BE something, you already ARE a vital part of an amazing whole. Feel it!

How do you fill your bucket? One drop at a time.
The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.
The great arises out of small things that are honored and cared for.
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