12-10-17 To Honor

To Honor

Honor – To have and show high respect for, integrity, dignity.

Honoring is an action that come from a certain state of mind.
Meditation, prayer, and mindfulness-awareness deepen our relationship with our mind as well as our body and have the potential to strengthen us from the inside out. This transformation only happens when we step in fully and take total responsibility for learning about ourselves. We learn
to honor all of who we are. Freedom from suffering is an inside job.
We are constantly offered opportunities to learn more about ourselves, to wake up. Do we honor those opportunities?

We keep looking for, waiting for that place, that state of mind that will be what we have always been looking for. Quit looking and just see. Here, now, this is what it is. We accept that we are human and imperfect–that we have ups and downs. That our emotions take us for a ride sometimes, with joy, or then with jagged feelings. That we feel bored or anxious or unsure. We can fully step into all of that, not with the attitude of putting up with what is happening while waiting for something better, but with an acceptance of what is happening. It is all valuable and the essence of a full and wonderful life. Then we begin to unfold and appreciate life.

What do we honor? We may honor, promote, a sense of not being worthy. Of needing something elusive which drives us to become subtly dishonest and manipulative in order to get what we want, even when we are not quite sure what that is. We may hide behind many masks. We may honor the frustration of never being engaged in here and now.

It seems almost too simple that what we need to do is to just feel, accept and engage in what is happening. Not engaging so that we are overcome by an emotion, but so that we can acknowledge and accept where we are.
When we have difficult times, we can be so trapped in that emotion we do nothing but feel and project, verbally and physically, our confusion and pain, and inflict it on others. My addiction was the epitome of being trapped and acting in very harmful ways. I never thought to care for myself in a kind way–to honor that I was entrapped and needed help. I only wanted to continue destroying myself. Many pay the ultimate price for that.

When we feel and accept, we are honoring ourselves and caring for ourselves and OTHERS.
What do I honor in my life that is healthy? I honor all of myself.

Have a sense of always stepping into an honorable life, of not trying to hide.
It can be hard to not hide. We think we need to not show our humanness, that we need to constrain ourselves and project and protect some image.
To honor who we are, right here right now, is to quit fighting and to care for our spiritual practice and awareness of how we act in the world.

We do not need to “get anywhere” we need to be right here, right now. That is the big brass band, that is the prize we need to win; ourselves, just as we are. With a sense of honor, dignity and imperfection that we embrace, that we wrap our arms around and care for tenderly, and know we have arrived.

When we honor ourselves as a part of the whole we begin seeing more clearly. We feel included and an essential part of this world. Not looking through the mask of aggression or hiding, we learn to act in honorable and authentic ways. We do not manipulate others, nor do we permit others to manipulate us. We know that honoring kindness is essential, and do not permit others or ourselves to disrespect anyone, including us. When someone is acting with selfish or harmful behavior we can see that, and have compassion for them. We are honoring the best in us and recognizing the confusion the other is experiencing, and honoring the best in them. We do not permitting that behavior to ill-affect us, or for us to engage in that behavior. We learn to see and feel what is healthy and what is unhealthy, and choose where we want to be.

When we meditate we should come from a foundation of respect and kindness in our hearts for ourselves. We sit with a sense of dignity and openness that is who we are! If we meditate with a sense of being unworthy or agitated, that will be our foundation. Likewise, in everyday life, we need to consistently be aware of our old behavior of fear and deception, and replace it with honoring ourselves and kind honesty. Let us constantly refresh our view by honoring ourselves.

Those of us here and now, have the capacity, and know how essential it is, to honor and care for ourselves, and to honor and care for others. To do this in everyday life. Let us honor the terrible pain we have known and use that knowledge to embrace the fragile nature and precious quality of EVERYONE’S life. To Honor this life the best we can. With your vision off the ground, you can look forward to what your precious life holds.

Please call me by my true names, so I can hear all my cries and laughter at once,
so I can see that my joy and pain are one.
Please call me by my true names, so I can wake up and the door of my heart could be left open,
the door of compassion.
Freedom is not given to us by anyone; we have to cultivate it ourselves. It is a daily practice…
Thich Nhat Hanh

We honor ourselves and others by extending KINDNESS, to ourselves and then to others.

How do you fill your bucket? One drop at a time.
The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.
The great arises out of small things that are honored and cared for.
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