8-6-17 Kindly Challenge Yourself

Kindly Challenge Yourself

Challenge – An objection or query as to the truth of something.
Difficulty in a job or undertaking that is stimulating to one engaged in it. To seek.

Should a life well lived always be in a state of quiet serenity? Or should you always be in pursuit of some kind of challenge? Those questions seem like opposites, but I think they actually go together. To me, a life well lived strikes a balance between both of those worlds. And I reject the idea that you have to choose one over the other. Tiny Buddha

In an addiction we will not challenge our lack of wisdom for our choices, not see the harm we do and the suffering we bring. When an idea, an object, a substance, or an emotion preoccupies consciousness to the near exclusion of anything else, we call it an obsession. Yes, we were crazy.
We are not crazy any more, well, not most of the time, but we need to challenge our perceptions often.We still are lazy and undisciplined in challenging our old behaviors and replacing them with healthy, positive actions.

We are told we need to feel our feelings, that they are valid. Often we find our feelings scary, heavy, and confusing, so we try to keep them at a distance. But we need our feelings in order to find satisfaction, meaning, and pleasure in life. Getting rid of feelings not only backfires but it also drains us of the psychological energy that makes life worth living. They are the source of motivation. They are the energy, the vitality, the juice of life. However we learn the importance of challenging our feelings when they become harmful or we attach to them. We can justify being negative, pissed off and expressing it often, because “it is a feeling I am having”. What we are feeling is fear, expressed in verbalizing what is wrong with ourselves or everyone else.

Do you wish to teach a child to be angry and judgmental? You are reinforcing the angry, fearful child in yourself when you act out.

When we challenge, seek out, it can also engender a feeling of wonder, of curiosity about our interconnectedness with the phenomenal world. Be very curious as to how your mind works.

“Those who overcome great challenges will be changed, and often in unexpected ways. For our struggles enter our lives as unwelcome guests, but they bring valuable gifts. And once the pain subsides, the gifts remain. These gifts are life’s true treasures, bought at great price, but cannot be acquired in any other way.” ? Steve Goodier
The source of our suffering. – Selfishness and laziness.

The feeling of a “void”-the feeling that something’s missing-like there’s supposed to be “more” to life, is universal. Many of us interpret the feeling differently, but we all feel it-we feel like we’re missing a piece, like we’re one half of a whole. We can, though, do something about it. The reality is we’re not missing anything at all, and so the funny thing is any effort that attempts to “fill” this void is bound for failure right from the start.

When you can’t control what is happening, Challenge yourself to control how you respond to what is happening. That is where your power lies.

Work with small things. Whenever you need to do something, wash the car, brush your teeth, mow, clean, emails, etc, if you have a feeling of – I don’t want to do this, Be very aware of that feeling, feel it, and then challenge it with the wisdom that you will, and need to do this. Be brave enough to step fully your task, being very present, NOT resentful, with a sense of gratitude that you are getting it done. Be mindful in all and any task. Bringing your mind back from incessant chatter and soap operas, to specifically and only the task you are preforming.
This is the mindfulness-awareness we practice in meditation, put to use in everyday life.

“The feeling that any task is a nuisance, will soon disappear if it is done mindfully.”
Thich Nhat Hanh

Mind, alone, creates our happiness and unhappiness. So if we’re serious about living a happy life, then we need to work on our mind and the way we frame our stories. By taking an altruistic view and embodying the spirit of generosity, compassion, and kindness with every person and every situation that we meet, we will never feel that a day hasn’t been well-lived, nor will we ever meet a situation that appears to us as a ‘disaster’. Tiny Buddha

We begin to know our thoughts are temporary and of our creation. We challenge our negative, self defeating thoughts, and replace them with a sense of gently, and gratefully stepping fully into the moment — as it is. We may do this begrudgingly at first, but with practice we start to actually feel reality open up for us. A sense of richness, belonging and wonder. We begin to know what is possible, and it is amazing. So simple, but amazing.

There’s actually a humorous element when we see ourselves falling into the “poor me” syndrome of misery. See playfulness, a sense of humor, as an essential way of living life.
Half of the challenge is to recognize negativity and choose to not indulge in it. The other half is to choose to actively act in kindness, generosity and patience. First with ourselves and then others. This will exclude revenge and resentment. As juicy as they are, they represent the worst in us. Challenging them and replacing them with kindness is the light of our true self shining.

Always look directly at what is there. Challenge kindly and with purpose.

You are your most important teacher. Pay attention.

“A diamond is just a piece of charcoal that handled stress exceptionally well.”

How do you fill your bucket? One drop at a time.
The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.
The great arises out of small things that are honored and cared for.

Heart Of Recovery web site — fcheartofrecovery.com