3-19-17 Patience – Action

Patience – Action

Patience (or forbearing) is the state of endurance under difficult circumstances, which can mean persevering in the face of delay or provocation without acting on annoyance or anger in a negative way.

In Buddhism, patience is one of the “perfections” that one trains in and practices in every day life. The Buddhist concept of patience is distinct from the English definition of the word. In Buddhism, patience refers to not returning harm, rather than merely enduring a difficult situation. It is the ability to control one’s emotions even when being criticized or attacked.

Patience, in Hindu philosophy is also the capacity to wait, endure opposites – such as pain and pleasure, calmly, without a desire to extend pleasure artificially, or to seek revenge. Ahimsa (non-violence) is not being violent to any human being and any living being at any time through one’s action, with words one speaks or writes, or in one’s thoughts.

I noticed that being patient gave rise to a feeling of equanimity—a calmness of mind that makes it easier to ride life’s ups and downs without being tossed about like a boat in a storm. Seeing the correlation between patience and enhanced self-compassion and equanimity convinced me of the value of this practice. Psychology Today

Recognize that impatience has arisen. So start by setting the intention to watch for impatience arising in your own mind as a response to not getting what you want right away. We tend to expect people to conform to our expectations. They ought to behave the way we think they should behave.

2. Investigate how impatience feels in your mind and in your body. This is important because, in my experience, I can’t begin to transform a stressful mental state until I accept that I’m caught up in it. So, work on becoming well-acquainted with how impatience feels.

3. Begin to transform impatience into patience. This takes practice—patient practice. And because patience is an act of self-compassion, I hope you’ll treat yourself with compassion over your inability to be patient at times. Know you are impatient, breathe and smile. Finally, about those unrealistic expectations that we should be able to control our minds. Instead of getting impatient (“upset“ or “angry”) about what arises in our minds, can we work on holding unwelcome thoughts and emotions more lightly—even sometimes with humor over the mind’s unruliness?

[Sometime] you will come face to face with the sudden and shocking realization that you are completely crazy. Your mind is a shrieking, gibbering madhouse on wheels barreling pell-mell down the hill, utterly out of control and hopeless. No problem.
Right Action is the fourth aspect of the Buddhist Eightfold Path. But what is “right action.” This means that when we act “rightly,” we act without selfish attachment to our work. We act mindfully, without causing discord with our speech. Our “right” actions spring from compassion.
“The basis of Right Action is to do everything in mindfulness.” Thich Nhat Hanh
To be aware of how we are feeling before we act, and mindfully choose a course of action that will promote and further a peaceful and inclusive action, not a selfish, reactionary action. Consider the others point of view also.

“According to Buddhism, compassion is an aspiration, a state of mind, wanting others to be free from suffering. It’s not passive — it’s not empathy alone — but rather an empathetic altruism that actively strives to free others (and ourselves) from suffering”. Dalai Lama

I truly wish to be fully in life, with clear eyes and mind, to live with a sense of dignity and compassion. My addiction clouded my vision terribly, and brought much suffering. My behavior of engaging negative habit energy reinforces those pathways and will continue to bring suffering.
We need to take action on any aspects that keep us in chains, to actively address our suffering.

Sit for a couple minutes, relax.
Bring to mind that which is most difficult in your life, not specifics, the larger feeling. Is it fear, self pity, anger, avoidance, judgment?
Consider the difficulty, feel it fully in your entire body. Sit with the feeling until you really feel it
Bring a feeling of Loving-kindness to the feeling. Let yourself become very compassionate and loving towards your difficult feeling. Envelop it with love and gentle caring. This is a part of who you are, love all of yourself. Let the feeling of loving-kindness permeate, spread through out your entire body. If you feel a reluctance to love yourself, love that feeling also. It is OK to like and love yourself completely.
Sit in the feeling of Loving-kindness for 2 minutes.
Breathe deeply, and release everything with the strong out-breath.
Sit in that open, contented place for 2 minutes. Wash, rinse, repeat as needed.

When we use the tools we have learned, we realize when we are demeaning someone, or bemoaning we did not get what we wanted, and we feel the uselessness of all that and naturally open up our hearts and include others and all our own goofiness with patience and a lighter hand.

You have the capacity to feel the current, the flow, and guide yourself and others through the difficult tides and times, with a sense of acting rightfully, with an open heart. We begin to find our foundation of peace, and deny our selfishness.
A huge weight lifts from us and we know we are worthy and capable of living fully.

How do you fill your bucket? One drop at a time.
The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.
The great arises out of small things that are honored and cared for.
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