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Mindfulness – Awareness Clues Us In

Addiction is an automatic behavior used to escape difficult feelings or situations, whereas mindfulness involves conscious and deliberate focus on difficult emotions as a way to disarm them and interrupt habitual patterns, like drug or alcohol use.
Addiction is the pursuit of what seems to be lacking but has really been there all along. Mindfulness – Awareness is one way to connect with one’s inner resources and see the abundance in life while recognizing that reliance on drugs, alcohol or avoidance techniques will only increase our suffering and confusion.

Despite negative emotions, we need to regulate our behavior towards our feelings, not away from them. How do we do this? We don’t respond to an emotion as if it is a poisonous snake slithering out from under our desk. We have to be aware of the emotions, and this awareness might signal the need for effortful self-regulation. We exercise restraint. We acknowledge the emotion without acting out aggressively, freezing up or running away.

Key features of addiction are denial and lying to self and others, often without even realizing it. Through mindfulness, the recovering addict honestly evaluates their addictive behaviors and takes responsibility for their actions, which empowers them to make changes in their lives. Addicts experience a great deal of shame and self-blame. Through mindfulness, they can develop compassion for self and others, and begin to actually enjoy life, in all of it’s ups and downs, and recover more quickly from difficult times and depression.

Mindfulness is more than awareness, however. Mindfulness also includes the key feature of nonjudgmental acceptance of our emotions (or thoughts). When people are accepting of their emotions (an attribute developed through mindfulness), the potential is that they may also may be able to use these transient emotions as signals to utilize their intelligence and patience, not just rely on a habitual coping response.
If I can cultivate mindful awareness and acceptance, I can better understand when and why I am motivated by habitual responses, and this in turn can promote more willful attempts to exercise the control necessary to stay the course, and take reasonable action until the initial emotions pass. Psychology Today

After you have a handle on your primary addiction, you realize that it is only a symptom of your problems. You often have the inability to focus clearly and see what is real, and you just continue trying to get what you want. You can exhibit your harmful behaviors through your need to – relapse, to think about your problems all the time, talk about yourselves, your problems, your accomplishments or knowledge. You may deny looking at your feelings and act out with sex, buying things, withdrawing, controlling, or seeking praise, and mostly walking around in a funk.
Choosing to not look at who you are and how you work, denies you the ability to counter your habitual behaviors with behaviors that enhances your live and raises you above the mundane.
Mindfulness practice puts a space between you and what’s going on for you. Meditation on your breath, your body, your thoughts and your feelings can let you see “this is pain”, “this is love”, “this is  fear”, “this is joy”, “this is craving”. This is just a thought, it is not who I am, it is just a temporary thought. Mindfulness reveals them all.

Mindfulness, invites people to stop, breathe, observe, and connect with their inner experience. It fosters well-being and less emotional reactivity; and thickens the brain in areas in charge of decision making, emotional flexibility, and empathy.

Mindfulness is not just concentrating on something. Mindfulness is a focused, non-judgmental awareness on what is happening  in the present moment. It helps us to let go of stress and connect with the beauty and joy of our ordinary daily life. In the present moment; YES all the time.

We find that our thinking will, as time passes, be more on the plane of inspiration. We come to rely on it. —- As we go through the day we pause when agitated or doubtful, and ask for the right thought or action. AA Big Book

You can recognize that habitual patterns are promoting a negativity in you, and you can choose to let it go. When you are completely focused on any task, you are not feeling a sense of being unworthy or superior, or needing anything, you simply ARE, and it feels right.

You may be so used to feeling sorry for yourself, looking for what is wrong, that you identify with that negativity and actually feel comfortable rolling around in the muck. Instead of being stuck with your self imposed shortcomings, or those of others, you can CHOOSE to, with an effort, let the negativity be, just let it alone, do not let it enter into you. It is not you, it is only a thought that is untrue, only A feeling, not YOUR feeling. Negativities are unwise reflections. Do not cling to negativity, instead choose to bring your awareness to the blessings you have, which are many.

Carry in your heart, and water your blessings, grow the blessings you have and you will not be able to keep from feeling the energy of growth and the calmness that you will naturally bring to others. There is no greater service than helping others, it is instrumental and essential in YOUR recovery. This only happens when you get out of yourself, heal yourself, and all of a sudden you find you are in service to others, and you are healthy and happy.

Use Mindfulness Awareness in all of your activities and in all aspects of your life.
This is a tool that will help you build a new life, and enhance the lives of others.
Know you are worthy and this is possible, if you try.

How do you fill your bucket? One drop at a time.
The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.
The great arises out of small things that are honored and cared for.
Heart Of Recovery web site – fcheartofrecovery.com