2-12-17 Emotions


Paraphrase – Jayaram V
There are two parts of our brains; the primitive, which are our emotions, fear, anger, pleasure, avoidance; and our intelligence – our rational mind, which decides how to deal with the information from our primitive core, and enables other higher functions.
There is nothing wrong with our emotions; they are a natural and inseparable part of our consciousness. Your behavior depends to a great extent upon which part of your mind is activated and how much control your rational mind exercises over your primitive mind.

When we use our intelligent mind to manipulate our world and overindulge in our primitive mind we may pursue pleasure to the extent that it overrides our any rational sense of maintaining our essential needs; food, housing, health, relationships, everything is secondary to indulging in our addiction.
12 & 12 – Alcoholics should be able to see that instinct run wild in themselves is the underlying cause of their destructive (behaviors).

When we try to avoid or manipulate life – “The world is seen as being absolutely solid and stiff. Everything is frozen movement, frozen space, solidified. . . We see the colors as they are, but somehow they are plastic colors rather than rainbow colors. Practice relating to our emotions in their fundamental state, as energy. Once we do this the fear, paranoia and shame drop away and we can relate to powerful emotions properly. CTR

Joel Osteen writes: “Nobody can make us think about something…You decide what you will entertain in your mind. Simply because the enemy plants a negative, discouraging thought in your brain doesn’t mean you have to ‘water’ it, nurture it, coddle it, and help it to grow If you surrender control of your mind to circumstances, mood swings, stress, and/or the opinions and critiques of others, you will lose your identity and become (more or less) a chameleon in life. Don’t let other people or circumstances dictate who you are.
We get a high from the seeming intensity of an emotion. When we quit indulging in our mental temper tantrums, the reality, the possibility, of a mindful, aware state of being opens up our world, our heart and our mind. We engage in the world with a sense of worthiness and confidence and awe where truly deep feelings and an innate understanding and wisdom enhance our vibrant world, and the experience of others that our lives touch.

We keep driving down side roads that go nowhere. When we return to where we started, which is anytime we become present, we can then decide, will we again go down that same side road that we know does not go anywhere, or let it go, (we may have to let it go numerous times), and get on with our journey, that will present all the fresh, new experiences that await us.
I can watch my serenity level rise when I discard my expectations. But then my “Rights” try to move in… I have to discard my rights as well as my expectations…How important is it compared to my serenity, my emotional sobriety?Big Book pg.420

Sakyong Mipham :Thoughts and emotions seemed overwhelming, now we see that they’re like mist rising from water. The emotion is a creation of our mind.

“Afflicting Emotions” Thich Nhat Hanh (Some Paraphrasing) Recognition: If we are angry, resentful, afraid, — we say, I know that anger, resentment — is in me. It is not who I am, it is an experience I am having. Acceptance: We accept what is present, not as good or bad, but simply accept it. Embracing: Our mindfulness embraces, as a sick child, our emotion, and it is calmed. Compassion. Looking Deeply: when we are calm enough we can look deeply to understand what has brought this emotion to be, what has caused it. Insight: By understanding the causes of our difficulties, we are able to change the situation if we choose to.

Emotional maturity is our ability to control our emotions and recognize the things in life that we can change, and to recognize those things we cannot change and steer clear of investing too much time in the things we cannot change.
Most frustration can be solved by doing the following:
Stop what you are doing or mentally engaged in, especially when you are feeling tense. – Just completely stop.
Take a deep breath and look around you.
Open your mind and think carefully about what is going on.
Ask, “What am I feeling?
Know that you are experiencing a feeling, the feeling is not YOU.
Ask, “Why am I feeling this?
Ask, with a sense of calm and reason, “What is the best way to proceed?

Only you can bring serenity and peace into your heart. Please take the time to work on finding your peace. Start becoming aware of how much time you spend spinning stories and promoting disharmony. Only your efforts to Be In Peace will bring results.
Always meditate and do any contemplation with no expectation of any results.

How do you fill your bucket? One drop at a time.
The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.
The great arises out of small things that are honored and cared for. Heart Of Recovery web site – fcheartofrecovery.com

Contemplation of an Emotion:

When contemplating an emotion it may help to begin with a small, or easy to work with emotion or thought, so you can see and feel how the technique works.
Sit with the experience only as long as you are able to.
Do not let it become overwhelming.
If it is too much – return to peaceful abiding meditation.
Some emotions we may need to work with a little bit at a time.
As we work with our emotions we begin to see they are more insubstantial than we thought.
We have been letting a thought define us, when that is really not who we are.
Sit in shamatha (peaceful abiding) meditation for a few minutes.
Bring to mind a thought or emotion that is troubling you.
Bring to mind the person or situation that causes your discomfort.
Let the emotion increase, feel the physical sensation of the emotion in your body.
Now let go of the thought of the person or situation that causes your discomfort,
and focus on what physical feelings arise.
Notice where the feeling is located in your body.
Let what you are feeling be your experience.
Now turn into that emotional energy, with an open, calm, awareness;
Look directly at the feeling, at the source,peacefully and calmly.
Feel the vast, clarity of your awareness expand into the emotion; feel the
emotion dissolve into that vast calmness.
Gently rest in your clear awareness.
Return to Shamatha meditation.