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4-26-15 Short-changing Myself

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Short-changing Myself

How often are we truly present for what is going on, responding openly and honestly to only what is presented to us at that time? Or how often are our responses controlled by another thought or emotion that has invaded or conditioned our minds, and our response and experience to the present situation is not a true one but is tainted by outside issues, otherwise known as ME? How often do I shortchange myself?

12 & 12 …We did not wish to have all our defects of character removed, because we still loved some of them too much.
The persistent use of meditation and prayer, we found, did open the channel so that where there had been a trickle, there was now a river…

There are difficulties in our lives that do need to be looked at and addressed. We most certainly may need to ask for help from outside entities of counseling and professional care.

What keeps us from having peace of mind and the ability to step openly and honestly into any situation that is presented to us NOW. Basically it is because we are consumed with thinking about ourselves. What happens when we are not thinking about ourselves, how often does this sense of presence that is not consumed with ourselves occur? First we have to be aware of what is going on in our heads and hearts, and then, if we have the tools, we can make a choice as to how we relate, or not, to what is actually happening, not just our version of reality.

The True Peace:?The first peace, which is the most important, is that which comes within the souls of people, when they realize their relationship, their oneness, with the universe and all its powers, and when they realize that at the center of the universe dwells Wakan-Taka (the Great Spirit), and that this center is really everywhere, it is within each of us. This is the real peace, and the others are but reflections of this.? Black Elk, Oglala Sioux & Spiritual Leader (1863 – 1950)

Pema Chodron.
Our very first problem is to accept our present circumstances as they are, ourselves as we are, and the people about us as they are. This is to adopt a realistic humility without which no genuine advance can even begin. Again and again, we shall need to return to that unflattering point of departure. This is an exercise in acceptance that we can profitably practice every day of our lives. ———————————————————————-

Here we are looking at one aspect that is in respect to very simply being more present. Which means whatever the situation is we are aware of what our mental state is, of what is driving us, or when we are openly and honestly engaging fully in what is occurring? How do we become aware of what is happening, as opposed to blindly being led through our day by our fears, our distractions and desires? Rarely being able to relate to what is truly happening.

Meditation is one tool we can use to, become aware of how our minds work, to see our thoughts, and realize that they are not real, and that we can return to a peaceful gentle place within ourselves. That state is always available to us! With some mental discipline we can realize when we are indulging in our needy self, and then make a choice how we wish to relate to our experience.

If we are able to open up and relate in an honest and caring manner, we are rewarded with touching a place of peace that exists naturally within ourselves and being able to project that into the world. What we then do is not dwell on our experience but accept it and let it go, so that there is no grasping at a perceived GOOD thing, that will discolor our next moment of experience. Each moment of our experience is fresh and new, if we permit it to be.

If we are unable to open up and relate in an honest and caring manner, that we know we are indulging in our needy selfish self, what we then do, is not dwell on our experience but accept it and let it go, so that there is no distaste of a perceived BAD thing, that will discolor our next moment of experience. Each moment of our experience is fresh and new, if we permit it to be.

It can be difficult to not indulge in our distractions; they are something we have strong ties with. When we are able to let them go we may feel a lack of who we are, a craving, a need to pull our blanket back up over ourselves. If we persist in keeping an open mind and heart, we feel we are in a bit of a void, this is a good thing!
Two points to help on having a more peaceful open experience; One – Know that you are worthy of feeling peaceful. Two – Be aware of what you are feeling, ask yourself often, what am I feeling?

One third of my Recovery is dependent on what I Don’t Do – engage in my addiction.
Two thirds of my Recovery is dependent on what healthy aspects I DO engage in.

How do you fill your bucket? One drop at a time.
The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.
“The great arises out of small things that are honored and cared for.”
Heart Of Recovery web site – fcheartofrecovery.com

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