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Negative Thinking

One of the most important things I can do, is to take an honest look at who I am and how my thinking affects me and others, and what I am able to do about it.
This is one of the places I can have “The courage to change the things I can”.
I need to recognize all that is in me that is not true, is harmful, made up, and false.
That which covers the Sunlight of the Spirit. The sun is always there, it is nothing to
attain or strive for, I just need to relax enough to let the clouds in front of it move on, since I am the only one who has put that darkness there, only I can dissolve it.
What keeps me from that warmth? Am I really so caught up in this relative world, the world of superficial and temporary pleasures and pain, that I cannot see or feel, have as my foundation, a greater spiritual connection that will help to naturally guide me in this world?

If you find you are comparing yourself to others that you see as having “more” than you, and you are making yourself feel BAD because you do not measure up, remember to also evenly compare yourself to others such as the mentally handicapped, the 4 year old with terminal cancer, and the sixteen year old girl disfigured in a fire.

You cannot notice life when you are focused on yourself.

1- ‘Life is shit’ Thinking pattern –Everything in life is bad, everybody is not to be trusted and nothing good will ever happen.
2 – ‘Should, would, could’ Thinking pattern – This type of person knows what they have to do to change their life, they are capable and they know it and they would do it if only………
3 – ‘It’s all my fault’ Thinking pattern – You see yourself as being the cause of everything bad that has happened.
4 – ‘They’re all wrong’ Thinking pattern – You see everyone as incapable of doing
anything right and your way is the best way to do it.

You are not on a journey towards the spiritual, you are on a journey WITH the spiritual.

Everybody’s view of the world is different and it all comes down to the thinking patterns you use in your daily life. If you think life is wonderful you will notice the wonderful things in your life, if you think life is shit you will find shit things about life. Change your thoughts and you literally change the world you are living in.
First you have to recognise your destructive thinking pattern.

Second is to be aware of when you are using the destructive thinking patterns If you seem to be in a constant funk, feel negative about yourself, you should look at your thinking patterns.

Third is to Change any negative or judgemental thinking.
Consider a greater view from the often destructive thinking. This takes time and
practice, our old patterns are literally grooved into our brains and behaviors. We can establish new grooves and behaviors, we can be very groovey.
When you feel that famaliar tightness, the grasping for, or the fear and avoidance of, STOP, take a breath and open your mind and heart and then decide. If you think about doing this “bettering behavior” and don’t do it 10 times, be OK and do it the next time.

Change your life with your new way of thinking.
People can change, do change and change for the rest of their lives. You will start to
notice new types of people and activities enter into your life who can help you reach the goals you have in life, and in turn you will help them reach their goals.

1. Stop comparing yourself to others.
The first step to releasing the hold envy has on your life is to turn away from what you see others have, good or bad in you judgment, and face the truth about yourself.

2. Stop Judging. Judgment, even self-imposed judgment, divides and conquers the soul into tiny squares designed to punish.I didn’t understand that good and bad are relative terms. Without them, things just are.
Once I stopped judging myself, I was able to accept where I was. It may not have been where I wanted to be, but I was no longer angry about it.

3. Start seeing things clearly.
With no one to blame, I was forced to accept responsibility for where I was and how I got there.
Without the veil of envy, without the mirrors of comparison, without the torture of
judgment, I saw the truth clearly: I was not where I wanted to be, because I was not who I needed to become.
See yourself clearly for the first time:  a wonderfully flawed human being with
passionate goals.

We always need to look at ourselves with compassion but we also need to take an honest and sometimes difficult look at ourselves. Compassion can be gentle, or at times very difficult, direct and seemingly harsh. But it will always engender healthy growth.

Meditation helps us to relax, perhaps find a broader perspective, an awareness of our thinking, and the ability to tame and focus our thoughts for benefit.
Awareness is an energy we can engage anytime, to see and know what we are doing and why, and to choose to engage in healthy growth and believe and trust in ourselves.

How do you fill your bucket? One drop at a time.
The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.
“The great arises out of small things that are honored and cared for.”
Heart Of Recovery web site – fcheartofrecovery.com

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